Sunday, May 10, 2009


That's a word I have only been hearing for almost 4 years... Mom. My girl is 17, but we've only had her a short while as we adopted her on her 14th birthday.

So, I don't look back and think of the day I gave birth to her, because I didn't. I don't look back and remember her first words or her first step. I will never know what and when they were.

The sad thing is, she won't either.

However, the happy thing is... is that we started before adoption day, when she was 13 1/2 building new memories. Not all are good, but the not-so-good are way less. We are, however, making efforts to establish a timeline for Nicole... reference points that she will be able to recall as she gets older... when she fell off the bike, made the volleyball team, broke up with her first boyfriend here, went to her first dance at high school, being on the swim team, her best friends, her first cell phone, her first puppy that belonged to her, changing schools, getting a real family including grandparents, aunts, uncles, and cousins, going to driver's ed, getting her license and first ticket, and so many more.

We try and play, "remember when" with her - remember when you said..... or did..... and how proud we were, or how funny she was, etc...

So, as an adoptive mom, you start where you started and enjoy today.

So, today will be enjoyable and I will give thanks for this opportunity and all the lessons this opportunity is bringing to me.

Oops! Better call my own mother!


Gary Rith Pottery Blog said...

Nicole is very lucky. :) So are Georgy and Gordy and Jerry :)

Debbie Y. said...

I see it this way, it seems you were meant to be Nicole's mom, maybe not from conception, maybe not from first breath, but from the first day you got her you ARE her mom. Happy Mother's Day.

Melissa B. said...'re one lucky woman, and Nicole is luckier than she'll ever know. Bravo to you & yours, and hope you have a lovely Mum's Day. I'm celebrating by cleaning the screen porch, trimming plants that are seriously about to turn into mammoth tangles of growth because of recent heavy rains, and, of course, hosting my weekly Silly Sunday Sweepstakes. Please stop by, if you have a chance!

Betty said...

I´m so glad you two found each other. It doesn´t matter that you don´t have the memory of birth or other childhood story´ have each other and that is the most important thing!

Ronnica said...

Happy Mother's Day! Nicole is very lucky to have you.

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